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Hi everyone,

I wanted to have your feelings about the subject I’m writing rn.

I’m really obsessed with fatness. I really love the feeling of getting fatter. I used to be athletic and particularly good at running and cycling. But I gained 12kg and I have no cardio anymore.

I’m getting fatter because I deliberately like to eat a lot to make my body softer.
The thing is that during some periods I’m trying to gain the most I can, and during other periods I feel very bad about my gains and I just think about fixing me sport goals to move my body and be athletic and muscular again. And I sometimes have these mixed feelings in the same evening. For example after eating 15 cheese toasts.
I think that the problem is that I like a lot of sports but my brain keeps encouraging me to be softer and fat.

Also, I’m currently single and I have to say that I’m a bit scared that my gains can compromise some opportunities to be in a relationship.

That’s it, I wanted to know your feelings about that.

Have a nice day !

Ah the ever present struggle of wanting to fit in to our diet obsessed society vs. Wanting to just break free... it depends on your priorities - if being fat is more important/enjoyable to you than being physically fit, then work on your fitness, if being fit is more important than enjoying this kink and a bigger body, do that. You can also make an effort to be fit while gaining, just keep up exercising but ensure your intake is more calories than you're losing. It will be a slower gain, but you'll probably find it more sustainable long-term.

As for dating, perhaps you may have an easier time finding a partner while thin, but it's also more likely they'll be toxic towards your weight gain when/if you do gain. Personally if you want to gain, I'd just gain and date at the same time, and when you do find someone you want yo go ling term with, all the more likely bring fat will be just fine. Fat people date all the time (exhibit A, see dating ads on this website).

Thx for your answer. The choice is very difficult. But I’m just so excited and obsessed with the fact that I can get fat that I feel like I can’t go against it.

You re right for dating, maybe it’s easier to find someone who’s ok if I pack up some pounds while being already fat myself. But even on this website, finding someone is sooooo difficult

Dating for me was better after gaining quite a bit of weight.
When I was really skinny guys never gave me a second look.

I think we all have doubts about things we do.
I did when I started attempting to gain weight.
Pretty normal really.

Good to hear that. So let’s gain weight ahah

Eating to my hearts content indulging every appetite until it hurts sometimes has been a lot of fun.

More fun than dating imo. and it’s not like I can’t or anything I went on a date recently just didn’t go anywhere

I can quite understand the back and forth.

As you get fatter, I found it takes over, essentially because you’re constantly experiencing something you enjoy.

Yes, at some point the extra weight will be a turn off to some people, and eventually most people. But I’ve found that my sex life has improved since putting on 200 lbs. I’m having more sex now than ever, and it’s the kind of sex I want to have.

having been fit and athletic for many years, and having had some long-term relationships during that time, and now being very fat and in the best relationship of my life, i can confidently say... your weight doesn't really matter.

being fat or thin will limit your potential partner pool (my current partner and i met on wooplus - she does not find thin guys attractive, for example), but there are lots of people who find all body types attractive. finding a partner is just tough, and i would say that weight is one of the most superficial factors, and if it is the factor that kills your chance at a relationship with someone - they were probably best avoided in the first place!

Thx all ! So if I understand correctly, the best thing to do is to let myself go. Eating a lot and accepting my fantasy to be the fat person I’d like to be. And then if I find someone it’s gonna be a relationship based on acceptation